A kind, private way to change a habit you no longer want.

Helmkind helps adults change a sexual habit such as porn use. Five minutes a day, a plan for the hard moments, and no shame.

Coming soon to iPhone and Android

No email. No phone number. No real name. The urge tool is free.

The Helmkind home screen: days on course, the Pause button and today's five minutes

Three promises

Kind

Shame never helped anyone change. There are no scores and no lectures, and your days on course never go back to zero.

Private

We never ask who you are. No email, no phone number, no real name, and no advertising or tracking code in the app.

Grounded

A 12-week course built on methods tested in published trials.

How it works

The Pause screen with a three-minute timer
Press PauseWhen an urge rises, Pause walks you through the next three minutes. Free, and it works offline.
A lesson titled A thought is a sentence, not a command
Five minutes a dayOne small skill at a time, for twelve weeks. You choose the goal.
A list of if-then plans
A plan for hard momentsDecide on a calm day, so you don't have to decide in a storm.
A crew of six people shown by nickname only
A crew that gets itSix anonymous sailors and a trained first mate. Nicknames only.

Private by design.

If we don't have it, we can't lose it. Here is what that means in practice.

  • We never ask for your email, phone number or real name
  • Your logbook is locked on your own phone
  • No advertising or tracking code in the app
  • A plain icon and hidden notifications, if you want them
  • Your crew sees a nickname and nothing else
  • Delete everything yourself, at any time

Free in the hard moment. For good.

Free

  • Pause, the three-minute urge tool
  • Your plan
  • Your harbour of trusted people
  • Your logbook
  • Urgent help

Membership

  • The full 12-week course
  • A crew of six and a first mate
  • Insights and a monthly look-back
  • Kip's postcards
  • Optional faith reflections

Prices are shown in your app store, in your own currency, with 7 days free first. Supported places are available if money is tight.

With faith, or without

If you want it, Helmkind offers a short daily reflection for Christians, for Muslims, or shaped by your own tradition. Every one starts from mercy. None uses fear.

Questions

What is Helmkind?

Helmkind is a self-help app for adults who want to change a sexual habit such as porn use. It offers a free three-minute urge tool called Pause, a 12-week course of five minutes a day, a personal plan for hard moments, and small anonymous peer groups.

Do I need to give my email or phone number?

No. You choose a private sign-in name and a password, and write down four words that get you back in if you forget it. We never ask for an email address, a phone number or your real name.

Is it free?

Pause, your plan, your harbour and your logbook are free for good. Membership adds the full course, your crew and more, with 7 days free first.

What happens if I slip?

Nothing is taken away. Your days on course never go back to zero. You look at what happened, change one thing in your plan, and carry on.

Does it work?

We can't promise an outcome, and we would distrust anyone who did. Helmkind is built on methods tested in published trials. It is not treatment, and some people need more than an app.

Is it religious?

Only if you want it to be. The faith pathway is optional and can be changed or switched off at any time.

Who is it for?

Adults, of any gender, who want to stop completely, cut down, or wait until marriage.

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